I know what you're probably thinking because I've already heard it a few times before ... how does it go again? Training the parent, not the child ... or something like that. I've read a number of books on child care, development, and education. Some of these books I sought out, others were suggested to me and still others I found while looking for something else. This book falls into the 3rd category.
I first read J. Lekovic's book before Maryn was born. I don't remember what book I was looking for when I came across it on Amazon, but I was intrigued by the reviews and thought it might be a good book for later. I hadn't planned to read it right after it arrived, but I did.
I didn't notice the small chapter on toilet training children with special needs when I bought it, nor did I realize the significance it would later have as I sped through that part the first time. You see, my daughter will most likely have challenges growing up that many of her peers will not. Potty training may be more difficult for her, or it may not, but the author's thoughts and approach really resonated with me.
Lekovic discusses the history of potty training in this country and also looks at different approaches abroad. She believes the potty, like other tools used in daily hygiene routines (tooth brush, bath tub, hair brush) can be introduced early. Obviously I'm not expecting her to be able to control when she goes, or know that she needs to go until she is much older. Again, it's just a habit that will hopefully assist with the "training" process when she is ready.
We started putting Maryn on the potty when she was old enough to sit unsupported. She was little so I had to find a potty that was lower to the ground so it would be comfortable for her. I'd sit her on it at a time during the day when I knew she was likely to go and we'd read a little book or sing some songs or play some patty cake. She really enjoys it. At this point she would be able to get off the potty, but she has become accustomed to sitting on it for a few minutes at certain times of the day, and does not climb off. I no longer need to read with her while she sits there, although I try to. And big bonus ..it saves on diapers as Maryn almost always goes while sitting on it.
She does not do this at daycare at this point. We just practice when I'm home with her (T &Th) and on the weekend mornings.
